Why should I join a TAPS group? Because everyone needs a safe place

I moved cross-country to North Carolina when my babe was just 3 weeks old.  I didn’t know anyone except my partner who was finishing his nursing program.  We had just had an incredible 3 weeks of family 24/7, friends and a large support network.  To say the least, I was lost.  My partner was starting back at school in a rigorous, accelerated program, and all of a sudden I had a newborn to try and entertain/get to sleep/keep happy and feed/keep alive on my own. I didn’t know a soul and then, on top of it, I was trying to find “time” for myself, trying to meet people by going out (with babe), applying for jobs, and keeping myself fed. Although I LOVE babies and absolutely adored being able to spend time with my fresh baby, it was overwhelming, isolating, and exhausting!

Tara and her sweet little one enjoying some time on the coast

Tara and her sweet little one enjoying some time on the coast

Along comes TAPS.  This group that I saw posted to a Facebook group and says it meets once a week and discusses newborn issues, promises to be a group of amazing, strong women (okay it didn’t promise, but it did happen to be true)…I was hooked.  After my first meeting and discussing our arrival stories, I knew that this was it.  A group to support one another without judgement, to share successes and struggles as well as teach a few things along the way – this was exactly what I needed.  To get out of the house, be in a “safe place” where if babe starts to scream, it was totally cool, was a godsend. 

A group to support one another without judgment, to share successes and struggles as well as teach a few things along the way - this was exactly what I needed.
— Tara

My TAPS group really helped me to connect with local moms. They were a sounding board and a truly supportive space.  The most important thing that I took away from TAPS is that it is OKAY and normal to be going through/feeling ___(fill in the blank)__.  These weekly affirmations were exactly what I needed to hear as a new mom.

My group still connects via Facebook group to celebrate victories, share milestones and “low points”.  We strive to have monthly family outings -- very informal gatherings/potlucks/hikes/picnics, etc. -- which are wonderful ways to keep up to date and connected with everyone!  Aside from group meetings, I have made some incredible friends and close connections with whom we meet at least weekly with babes.  Without TAPS I have no idea where I would have been able to find the same strong support network that is critical to those early baby days.